What does it REALLY mean to be and live Light-Hearted?
Is this even possible when we are in constant change and flux in our lives? When we are consistently bombarded with the energies of the world around us, how can we remain light hearted and flourish with ease each and everyday? I was talking on the phone with a dear friend I had not spoken to for a month or so. At the time I had all my things in storage in Los Angeles and I was considering adventuring to the Northwest to possibly move there permanently. I was renting a room in her mothers home and I was unsure where my next dollar would come from, where my next home would be, or even what the universe had in store for me. She and I were talking, laughing, reflecting on a few things when she interjected by saying
“Jennifer, I am amazed at how joyful and lighthearted you are right now”. “I mean you have no security and no idea what will happen next.” “How do you do that?” “I would be a total wreck”.
“I know - right?” I responded. “You would think I would be so much more stressed out- but I’m not” I then continued to explain that being present, playful, and connected with her in that moment did not mean I was happy ALL THE TIME. Or that I was ignoring my current situation or pretending it was not happening. Instead it was the complete opposite. I was in fact COMPLETELY in it. I was allowing myself to experience and feel ALL the emotions that came my way such as concern, worry, sadness, frustration, and even fear when they appeared. The difference was I was rooting myself in the very existence of all that was happening. I was not escaping or allowing myself to be distracted. I was present, gentle with myself, and the biggest and greatest factor for me was.................I recognize that everything that happens in a day is just what is happening. Events are events. They are happening and they DO require your attention, participation, and presence. Something, however, that is vital to know....... is that it is YOU who attaches heaviness, seriousness, dred, discontent, turmoil, and perplexity to the events occurring in your life.
The events themselves are not infused with these qualities. YOU determine the qualities. Yes , let me say that again. YOU determine the qualities. I was recently reminded of this when I helped a friend move her things into storage. She rented a truck with no movers and was relying on a few friends to help her. I made the decision inside of myself to be 100% present for her and effortlessly carry out the move. We played music, we danced, we laughed, I even took a brief joyride on the back of the moving truck down our street. I was hanging off the side like a monkey swinging from a branch, just as garbage men do when working hard jumping off the back of garbage trucks. I just wanted to see what it felt like - so much fun! We took breaks when we needed to, drank lots of water and just flowed with the day. We allowed everything to be in its perfect timing. The next day she posted on Facebook that it was the best and easiest move she ever made and she thanked me for my joyful approach to the day.
The moving day was just that.......a moving day. It required packing, lifting, carrying, moving, and driving the truck, and dealing with the storage unit. Remember again - no innate qualities to any of that. Its just what was happening that day. So we chose to be in it and experience the day for exactly what it was - we moved her things. Simple, easy, and just that - we moved her things.
This to me is what being lighthearted is all about. You get to decide to attach a “light as a feather” approach to the events happening in your life. You get to choose smooth, flowing, effortless responses to what is occurring in every moment.
Ok so what happens if the truck broke down? Or the storage unit was not big enough for her things? Which we were a bit concerned might be an issue. Allow yourself to FEEL what emotion it immediately triggers inside of you when mishaps happen. Just let it pass through you like a wave. Yell...UGHHHHHH or jump up and down or be angry for a moment. What is important is to ONLY allow the wave to move through you for JUST a few seconds or a few minutes. Then let it go!!!!!! Let it drop through you into the earth. The event is still happening. It is not going away. It is there in your face. So let it go, take a deep breath and make a goofy silly face and decide what is best to do next and do it. Simple~ Choose to be lighthearted. The event is going nowhere. The event itself is not heavy. It is in your immediate surroundings and it includes you - so enjoy!
Living light hearted IS possible!
Next time you find yourself in the middle of an event - which I can guarantee will be in the next 30 seconds or so - since life really is just a consecutive series of events - but that is a topic for another time - LOL!
Stop and look down at your body. Push your hands together and be aware of your presence. Choose to be right there in that moment in your body and aware that you are IN whatever you are IN.
Remove all qualities from the event - label the event for EXACTLY what it is. Such as making dinner, listening to a friend, helping your child with homework, driving to work - you get the point. Or it could be moving your things, going on a job interview, or eating a hotdog. I just threw that hotdog in as a reminder that we attach “importance” to things. Eating a hotdog is no different that going on an interview. They are both events that are happening that require YOU to be there. One is not more important than the other. They are both just events happening today.
Once you label the event your in - choose to move through the event lighthearted. View it as simple - see it as effortless - see yourself with ease and flow just doing what is next. Smile, laugh, and enjoy!
Lightheartedness is a choice. It is an option in each and every event of your daily life. Start by applying the steps above and you will become aware of how things can easily flow each and everyday. Allow the ease to shine through and you will see how simple life can be!